10 Facts about Motherhood
Here I am. Sitting on my sofa and spending my free time (when my baby sleeps) writing this blog post. It has been a long time since I wrote, post or vloged anything. I just needed a break. Time just for myself in those short breaks when Herkus sleeps. I needed time to think about who I am now, who I want to be and what I want to do. Because since I became a mother all my life has changed and I forgot myself being a wife, friend, daughter, blogger, dog owner. I was only a mother, carer for my little angel and one day I realised I need something more than that otherwise I will end up having depression and not wanting anything from this life. So I am back, like it or not, but I decided to keep this blog and have that motivation to do something in order to write something. This time I am just sharing few facts about motherhood. Let’s see how many of you can relate to this.
#1 Your friends see you as parents
Oh yeah. Since we have Herkus with us, most of our friends stopped visiting us or invite to go somewhere (ok I don’t say clubbing but common…). They see us as parents who cannot do anything else other thank looking after a baby. WRONG. We still the same people we were before. Yes with more restrictions now but baby is not an illness is it? Now most of our friends just meet with each other who don’t have kids yet. I am sure they do it with good intention, but we feel like we are left behind sometimes. Oh well.. We need to get used to the idea that we have more responsibilities although we still have our time for other stuff (somehow)
#2 You become real fashionista
No, not because you are decision maker in baby’s clothing I am talking about myself this time. Some days you change your clothes so many times that you need to figure out what to wear next and how. By doing so I organised my all wardrobe and even found some cool stuff I forgot about. This one actually is for good tho. My record was 5 outfits in one day. What about you? Still I have to say it gets better with time or at least I hope it is.
#3 Shower spa
Oh yeah… when you get time to shower it is like spa for you. No baby, no mess, no dirty nappies, no meal preparation, just you, hot water, nice smells, face masks and silence… It is the only time in a day that is all for you and about you and nothing else matters. Even tho my husband likes to come and update me what is going on downstairs. Seriously?! Do not ruin my precious spa time.
#4 Baby sleeps you don’t
I remember everyone telling me when baby naps you should go nap too. Really? And what about food, dirty dishes and other housework plus if you do some online business and have the dog that needs attention too. So many things to do so I cannot let myself just to sleep and expect that everything will be done when I wake up. Probably in these 7 months I had few days with nap and just because I was ill or exhausted. However, I am not complaining, as I do like to do something else and get out of the routine just at least for that moment.
#5 Becoming a professional singer
Not only a singer but a song writer too. When you have a baby you do so many things that are out of your comfort zone. For me it is singing. Never like to sing in front of somebody even if it is my baby. I hate myself singing and I am not confident at all. I better do dance 😀 But when you have to you have to. I am one of those people who don’t know many lullabies and songs for kids so I had to improvise and yes was creating my own lullabies sometimes. Once I even googled for lyrics. No judgement here. I am just trying to be a better mom and improve my skills as a mother. Still not sure if he likes it or no 😀 In addition, to singing you also become a professional entertainer. You would be surprised how creative you can be. You will see.
#6 Mastering hair buns
This is a real deal. All long-haired moms would understand. Up dos, hair buns are your best friends when you have little one in the house. You know when they say you start losing some hair after giving birth. Yes you do lose some hair because your precious little angel makes sure you would be with less hair. So all pregnant ladies you can start practise techniques now. I improved this skill so much in the last few months.
#7 Changed values
Your view to the life changes so much when you become a parent. It is amazing how it can change you as a person. You realise that you are responsible for other human being and you cannot think only about yourself. You change the way you look at your parents. You realise how hard they worked to grow you up and make you a person you are today. You appreciate them more. All family concept you had in your mind before changes to much stronger feeling. Nevertheless, you do not think only about yourself (if you think at all). I want to get everything the best for my baby, including clothes, food, spent time etc., you don’t care that much about going out, new clothes, travel or so. Believe me, kids can really make you a better person (I believe they do).
#8 Worry is your second name
I worry if he eats enough, I worry that he will not choke while eating, I worry about his poop color, I worry when he fells over, worry if he is too hot or too cold. Worry worry worry. And it is completely normal. It is not the first things only for your baby but for you too. And you are going to worry about all those first times, but as soon as you get used to it you won’t even remember you have been worrying about such a silly small thing. Be prepared.
#9 Counting to 10 does not work anymore
Sometimes you will feel hopeless, stressed, angry or depressed. Your patience will be tested and you have all those tricks to help you to cope and find that piece. Well sorry to tell you that but probably your techniques will not work anymore. Not going even to details with this one you will see what I mean, just telling you that counting to 10 and breathing will not help. Good luck
#10 Body image
When I got pregnant, I was not one of those women who would say oh I will be fat and ugly. No, I wanted my belly to be big; I was not worrying about stretch marks and gained weight. After pregnancy, you see different image and it is up to you how you are going to accept it. Yes, I am a bit disappointed how it looks right now but hey I gave birth to the most wonderful baby in the world and I am proud with my body because of what he did. It all just takes time, trust me, you will get there sooner or later. Moreover, you start to eat more healthily when baby starts solids, because you have to, right? Not much choice there. So I would say that all this motherhood thing helps you to feel stronger, more beautiful and healthier than never before.
Probably I could go on and on about motherhood facts but we do not have that much time and it would be endless as well as different for everyone. I always imagined myself as a wife and mother but I didn’t expect all of that. However, I am happy momma and these little things means nothing comparing to your little one’s smile that pays off everything you going through.
I would love to hear what you didn’t expect when being a mom. Share your fact in the comments.
Enjoy your motherhood