Pregnancy is an issue?!
I decided to write this post because I see so much unfairness in this world and I want to tell someone how do I feel about it as I cannot keep it for myself any longer. I see so many pregnant women who are not enjoying their pregnancies as much as they could and almost from the beginning of pregnancy are saying they want it to end soon. And it is not because they want to see their baby as soon as possible but to get rid of all discomforts caused by the pregnancy. Why?
Ok. I had easy pregnancy from the beginning. Yes I had some pains and discomforts time to time but I never ever thought about the due date and even wanted to be pregnant for longer. Even now I would like to be pregnant. I know I cannot compare myself to those complicated pregnancies, but when woman complaining about how big she is, how many stretch marks she got or how difficult it is to do anything. No it is not.
My pregnancy at the beginning was a bit painful as well and I was worried and couple times went to hospital because of that. I was tired all the time, didn’t go to work few times, but when second trimester kicked in, I was so happy. My belly was not big, all new experiences happened (first kick, hiccups etc.), then you really realize there is a human inside you and you have that magical power to grow him inside of you. I was so happy and enjoying every single day with my bump and actually, I wanted to have big bump and was waiting for it. Then, on the third trimester, yes it gets more difficult to shave your legs, to bend, to get out of the car in narrow parking spaces, you get tired more easily and are out of breath even when you slowly walking. In the last month, I also got some stretch marks and I was huge! And you know what? I was happy, I was happy seeing those stretch marks, was happy I have pregnancy symptoms, I was proud of myself that I didn’t need any help to tie my shoes (ok maybe once or twice but just because it is too cute when your husband ties your shoes J) , have a shower and so on. I just enjoyed my pregnancy to its bits.
Therefore, it makes me feel sad and angry when women complain about all these things. Come on, your mother did exactly the same thing for you, and you should be thankful you can breathe, live and give the life to your baby. All those stretch marks and weight will disappear if you want to but your child will be your world for the rest of your life. So, try to give your baby the best start while s/he still in your belly. Think about those women who cannot even be pregnant and feel what you feel, and when they hear you complaining about it.
Even more, the more positivity you will have the better it will be for you and the baby; the easier birth you will have (proved) and it will be easier later on when you will have real struggles with your newborn. If you look pessimistic at your pregnancy, it could be even worse. Like it happened to my one close friend. She find out that she is pregnant few months before her wedding, and she was always saying that it is very bad time, that she will be fat on her wedding and so on. As a result, baby was not growing properly and at the end she lost her baby in early stage.
So all pregnant ladies do not forget that you have miracle inside you and it is small price you pay for it, even if you have complicated pregnancy try to stay positive and give the best vibes to your baby and yourself. Don’t forget that the mind power is very strong and you have control over everything you do even if it is pregnancy. Stay strong, positive and love yourself the way you are because the best is just coming.
My pregnancy gave me so much. I got the confidence in myself, with my body. I realised that I am stronger than I thought I am and everything is possible if you have the right mind.
If I can, you can too. All the best and I am waiting for your inspiring and motivating stories.
See my water birth story HERE